From grey’s blog: they say that at 18, one’s character is complete. finished. i think that means set in stone. at 18, we become too old to change. we are too set in our ways.
this is a little sad. i hate to think that i’ve finished all the character-building that is to be done, and that i’ve already developed immutable opinions. i’ll keep my severe double-standards and my political views. i’m afraid i’ll think the same way at 18 and 80. (btw it’s a beautiful entry, go read it in its entirety)
When someone’s character changes, is there really a change? Or does the following happen?
1. There’s a change in the balance between the different facets of his character. Kinda like a natural toggling of the bars of the equaliser in Winamp.
2. The person chooses to display a different side of himself that he hadn’t before, for various reasons. Like having the capacity to be ruthless, as opposed to really becoming ruthless.
Not much difference between the two, but the second one is more…deliberate? And I think it’s what I’ve been doing in the recent past. (no, not becoming ruthless)
I think that our characters are set pretty early on. (okay, maybe not always at 18.) If we do appear to change, it’s just either of the above scenarios.
Actions and viewpoints are NOT synonymous with character, are they? You could have a rock star living a really decadent, extravagant lifestyle when he’s in his twenties, but who settles down with one woman and makes use of his influence to aid humanitarian causes later on in life. Is there really a change? Or does he feel the urge to make his presence felt and his voice heard, both times?
Man. What is character, actually?